My position on ... positions

Once I had an affair with a man who had been dumped by his wife. She would have sex with him only rarely and then only in the missionary style. We had a hot fling and he called me "position girl" because of my willingness to go anywhere.

So here are my takes on sexual positions.

Missionary: I actually love this position, but it comes in many flavors (most of which people never try). The traditional man on top thrusting is fine; sometimes I pull my knees up and lazily enjoy being fucked (let him do the work). Or I can fuck him back using my pelvis — if I put my feet on the mattress or floor or ground, it can give me the leverage to bring him off in a hurry. I love to wrap my long legs around my lover and pull him in as he fucks me.

But my lover can also raise my ankles over his shoulders — this puts him deeper into me and is delightful. My favorite lovers even turn their heads to kiss my ankles as they hoist me into position. So is missionary where the man crooks my knees into his elbows, very intimate, very sense of "being taken." Love it!

And there's the "high riding," where the man positions himself slightly higher, pressing on my pubic bone. When my lover is on top and raising himself on his arms, I can also pull my legs in front of him and nearly cross them, producing a very different sensation.

Unlike many women, I can come in any of these variations. I have a very sensitive G spot.

If you're well endowed, I'll gently press against your abdomen, holding you at a distance until my pussy can adjust to your length. This is another benefit of missionary.

A couple of further grace notes: Reaching around and stroking his balls. I love feeling a man's balls against me as he thrusts and this gives him a major turn-on. Also, intertwining my legs in his. Missionary can be romantic, or dominated, or adventurous.

I don't like a guy to be completely down on me. If he raises himself on his arms, we can see each other's faces and expressions. My favorite lovers smile like angels as they fuck me.

Me on top: This is another position with many varieties. I can ride in the usual sitting position, but also bend my legs back and slide. I've had lovers who grabbed by ass, raised their legs and really pounded into me.

A bonus: My man can caress my breasts and lick and suck my nipples. Have to be careful in this position because if I bear down too much, too soon, I'll immediately start coming.

I'm not a fan of being on top and facing backwards. But that's just me.

Doggy: I love to be taken from behind, but you need to sense the right mood. It's fine to push right in when we're both on fire and have left a trail of clothes from the front door to the bed.

But teasing me with your cock-head right at the edge of my labia, then slowly sliding in is very arousing.

Some men swivel their pelvises to fuck me from different angles with each thrust. They fuck in a rhythm, then pull almost all the way out before slamming in deep (this also can work in the ankles-over-shoulders missionary style). The feeling is amazing.

Bonus: If the relationship is souring or dull, I can fantasize about another man fucking me.

Yes, I claw the sheets if I really get going.

All the above positions work in bed, but I've also done them in public, on the floor, on assorted pieces of furniture, in a meadow, and (missionary) on the hood of a car.

Sixty-nine: I've done this with men and women. Best accomplished with patience and give-and-take. Sometimes I get so aroused that I have to lie my head on your thigh while I come from your tongue-worshipping. Then do the same in return. It's great foreplay — or as the main course.

Side-by-side: A well-hung guy can penetrate me when we're lying beside each other. This isn't a fave, but it offers some variety while enjoying a love-making session with multiple positions.

Scissors: This is popular in girl-girl sex. I don't especially like it because I can't see my lover close-up, or have the submissive rush of doggy. Tried it with my ex-husband, with his cock in me. But we only did it once.

Face-sitting: Two words: Orgasm city.

What are your favorites and why?

Seeing is believing

Three photos on this blog are the real me. I won't tell you which ones. I will say this: Thank god I'm old enough that my wildest years were before iPhones or I'd be in big trouble. Especially considering my job.

Nowadays, you can't trust a lover to take an intimate photo or video and not post it on the internet. This is especially true of someone seeking revenge after a breakup.

To be sure, I'm something of an exhibitionist and if I were younger and in a different field, it would be exciting to see myself the subject of hundreds — thousands! — of guys masterbating to my image. I know you do it to my stories — I've even spiced up some marriages if my emails are to be believed. I think about my most passionate relationships and wish I had stills and videos (with sound) of those — but only for me.

The only time I was filmed having sex was my infamous time at the frat house, when I was nearly gang-banged. I realized too late that someone had a videocam running. That was in college, before I learned the moves that would have allowed me to seize the camera and do a beat-down on the cameraman. Oh, well.

In a couple of relationships, my lovers and I took Polaroids of our fun. Me being fucked from behind, sucking him off, him going down on me, me posing legs spread wide. Pretty take stuff. I still have them. I also have photos my husband and I took.

One of my friends — I'll call her Lauren — was filmed having sex with her boyfriend. The camera was set up for a perfect angle to catch his dick going in and out of her as she lay there, knees up. He moved her around so every position was captured. After they broke up, he posted it on the net and sent Lauren a link. Her face was visible. This is the height of slime.

So is the experience of Heather, who told me how her professional photographer boyfriend took hundreds of shots of her naked, of them having sex, closeups of semen running out of her pussy, and the threesome with his best friend he talked her into. He dumped her. She now sees the pics on porn sites. She also learned he had done this to other girlfriends.

Other friends are willing participants. With iPhones and other digital devices, it's commonplace for some couples to photograph their privates, their partners naked and wet or hard, selfies... It's a thing.

But not for me. You'll have to use your imagination.

What about you? Tell me everything.