Monday, January 23, 2012

Licking pussy

Things worked out well for my colleague. She followed my advice on fellatio, given verbally and with the Stakeout Banana, as we call it, and her boyfriend came after two minutes and said it was the best blowjob he ever had. She enjoyed it, too, and I can see her confidence growing. My bet is she'll want to try out her new-found talent elsewhere, not that I am encouraging such slutty Linda Sue behavior.

Ah, but there's a rub. Her boyfriend doesn't like cunnilingus. He does it, a few licks "like he's licking an ice-cream cone," and then he wants to climb on top and fuck her. This won't do. How many times do I have to say that oral sex goes both ways, must go both ways. Being a master cunnilinguist is a requirement to be my lover (beyond a quick romp where we never get that far, say where you bend me over and fuck me and we never see each other again...oh, sorry, I lost my train of thought).

So, pay attention men:

DO learn to love her vagina: The shape of her lips, their prominence, her scent, her juices, your juices mingled together, her pubic hair, perineum and anus. Women can tell if you're really into it, or if you're just doing it out of duty. If you're really into her private parts, it will make her more sensual and open to all sorts of fun.

DO tell her she's beautiful once you're "down there." She is.

DO take your time. I love it when a man works on my breasts a long time, then licks and kisses my abdomen and belly button, barely caressing his face across my pussy...then sucking my toes and kissing up each leg, up to my pussy and, again, barely touching my pussy before getting down to business.

DON'T go immediately for the clitoris. This may be too intense for many women. And you're cheating yourself out of much more...

DO spent time licking and gently sucking on her pussy lips Run your tongue around them. Revel in every detail (the right lip is bigger than the left, etc.).

DO tongue-fuck her. A man burying his face in my pussy and running his tongue in and our is sometimes enough in itself to drive me over the edge. Of course, his nose is also pushing against my clit as he does this.

DO use your hands. Caress her belly and legs, hold her hips, and as things really heat up (pay attention now) hold her hands. Most of us want that hand-holding connection.

DO learn the right approach for her clit. Start with a very light circling of it with your tongue and see how she responds. Some women want only that. Others will respond in a way that tells you it's okay to apply more pressure. Some like it when you suck their clits once they're aroused (me, among them). Vary things: Circle-lick her clit and go back to her lips or tongue-fucking her. Try licking her perineum and see if that pleases her. Keep coming back to the clitoris. Use different edges of your tongue: The tip, flat edge, side.

DO follow her responses and act accordingly. She'll relax more and let you in, set a rhythm, respond, get more and more aroused. When she starts to come, DON'T STOP! Keep going. You may want to let up the pressure a little. I'd probably be grinding my pelvis into your face.

Understand cunnilingus is different for most women than a blowjob is for men. Any guy wants his cock sucked. Many women have been conditioned to think "it's dirty down there," or they are afraid of losing control. So there's a major trust issue involved with many. You have to show you're trustworthy. Among other things that means being patient, slowly seducing her by kissing and licking her legs and belly, etc. Once you're good, you can move on to all sorts of fun: Face sitting, using toys, sixty-nine, licking her while another man fucks her. But it all begins with knowing expert tongue worship.

Have more to add? Please comment.

12 comments:

Week Bi Week said...

I think that might be the best cunnilingus advice I've ever seen.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the post, I love doing it. I can't understand why some guys will not perform cunnilingus. When I do it to my partner she can cum so hard she can't move for 10 minutes afterwards.

fitforlife said...

Great advice. I became aroused reading your article.

HubbyThinkHubbyDid said...

I am sometimes worried to be a bit hard on the clit.. But good advice, I really like to take my time, but think I could be better with my hands, before going directly to business. Thanks for a good post!

Anonymous said...

Tell us more about your experiences licking pussy! In loving detail! :)

Anonymous said...

Great advice. I've been doing most of what you said but found the holding her hands new. So I tried it as well with a great response.

Thanks. K.

Captain Starkiller said...

Interesting post especially with this article
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jan/29/boyfriend-refuses-me-oral-sex
that I was reading recently.

Captain Starkiller said...

The comments on the link I supplied earlier were interesting. Some men just do not like to head downtown.

I am not one of them.

Which is just as well. My wife's first boyfriend was huge. I do not match up. Before our two kids, it was not a major problem as I was able to give her squirting orgasms which she had never had before. I knew that before kids, size did not matter (she was freaked out the first time that she wet the bed when she had an orgasm with me). Since kids, it is either the stretching that her vagina went through or the fact that we are a lot more tired, but I hardly ever give her an orgasm with my penis.

But, she does orgasm if I go down on her. This has only happened in the last year though. She used to be very shy. Then one day, we were on holiday, the kids were in another room, and she had come out of the shower. She lay on the bed and exposed herself to dry, and after a while I went over and just went down on her. No foreplay, just down on her. She tried to get me to stop at first, but then let me continue. She had three orgasms that night, those being the first times that she let herself relax enough to do so when I went down on her. Which is great as I do not have the stamina I had before kids to have vaginal sex three times in a night anymore!

She still hates giving me oral, which was frustrating, especially as I know she has tried to swallow with her first boyfriend and has yet to taste my sperm. (She tried loads if things with him that I have not experienced with her, such as sex in a park, or with her parents in the next room, or in a hotel swimming pool.) But I love going down on her more than I like the idea of oral. And I am the one with her, not her ex- who took ages to get over her. Anyway, now she is very demanding for oral, even letting me drink her out after I have ejaculated in her, things that she was too shy to let herself enjoy in the past. And I love every bit about going savouring the taste and scent of her most intimate parts.

NickMadeley said...

Never underestimate the power of telling your partner what you are about to do to them, pausing...tell them again why you enjoy what you are about to do to them.. then do it it to them....slowly. :)

Thank you for the insight..I never turn down advice, I might just learn another thing..or two

Stefan Maree said...

Linda, i enjoyed your blog, reading it for the first time. Most men and women dont understand how to enjoy sex and you cover a lot of that...thanx.
On this post, i want to comment insofar that you explain in detail how you as a woman enjoy being played with... fantastic stuff... but what you forget is that not all women think about it in the same way... to play with them...is just BORING...they lay there like motionless...not responding and oh...dont do this and that! Now...how can a man enjoy and give joy with such a woman?... maybe your wife for life?
Its difficult my girl!!! believe me!

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