Sunday, July 27, 2008

Advice for better cunnilingus

I received an email from a man who said he loved going down on women, he could do it "for three or four hours," and he wondered why some women didn't like cunnilingus.

My advice was, first, most women don't want you down there for three or four hours. We couldn't handle it. But I give an A for effort. A man who loves cunnilingus is on his way to being a good lover. But...he's got to take his time. For example, don't underestimate the value of foreplay and kissing (there are hundreds of different ways to kiss and caress alone). Be willing to heat her up once you go down there, too. Different tongue strokes...tongue fucking. Become very plugged in to what she's feeling and go with it.

Below is an old post I did on this subject on The Fellatrices. One more thing: some women are fucked up about cunnilingus -- it's "nasty to put your mouth down there" or they are afraid to lose control. With the right foreplay and communications, you might be able to break through this barrier (and she will always love you for it). Otherwise, beware. You will have a sex life that is highly constrained and slowly dies.

Otherwise, here's advice for the Fluent Cunnilinguist:

You gentlemen want blowjobs. But it’s better to give than to receive. And if you want to receive, you’d better be good at giving.

I can’t speak for any woman but myself, but I love to have my pussy licked. Show me a good cunnilinguist, and I’ll show you a man whose dick I will happily, greedily worship with my mouth.I can’t speak for any woman but myself, but I love to have my pussy licked. Show me a good cunnilinguist, and I’ll show you a man whose dick I will happily, greedily worship with my mouth.

Here’s what I don’t want: A man who hurriedly licks my vagina, like it’s an ice cream cone, for a few seconds before he fucks me. I had a couple of those in college and even then I knew I was being dissed. Later, I wasn’t shy about demanding more, and if I didn’t get it, then the Detonate Relationship light was flashing red.

A good cunnilinguist loves women and their vaginas. It’s that simple. It’s that rare.

If you want to make love to me, be willing to take your time with my pussy. Can you kiss me, I mean really kiss me? Light brushes on my lips, deep, passionate tongue kisses. Then kiss and nibble my ears…I’m already getting wet.

Take your time. Take off my clothes the way you lusted after me in them, maybe with urgency, maybe teasingly, brushing the fabric across my nipples. Linger over my panties. Can you kiss me all over, suck my nipples and caress my breasts, lick and suck my toes, kiss and nibble on the inside of my thighs? You’ll have me moaning by then, and a lesser man might climb on and slide inside. But not you, my love.

No, you will lightly pass your face across my pussy, taking in my scent. You say you love that. As I lie there, spread open and vulnerable, you say I’m beautiful. I feel your tongue ever so lightly across my clit, just a taste, just a sample. Then I feel you exploring my labia with your tongue, all around, for a long time. You gently open my lips. You raise my legs and put my feet on your shoulders, the better to tongue-fuck me, going as deep as you can. I feel your tongue catching my juices as they flow to my perineum. You know how sensitive I am there, so you linger. One hand reaches up and gently teases my nipples. You stroke my thighs.

All this takes time. You are in no hurry, my love.

Only later do you start to work on my clit, first with very faint circles with the tip of your tongue. Then you go away again, sliding that tongue inside me, mapping all the folds of my pussy, before returning, again and again, each time changing the rhythm. Urgency takes me higher, but then you back off. I may even try to grind against you, but you are in no hurry. You may make me wait a bit more. God, I want to come! Wait, wait, not too fast, make it last! You are connected to me, sensing all this.

I shudder, holding your head, stroking your hair. My feet start to burn. I need to hold your hands now, need you to be with me, and you instinctively know this. We hold hands as you make circles with the flat edge of your tongue, now with more pressure. You use the same edge to move up and down my slit, now always returning to the clit. I have lost time now, the edges of my eyes flash with colors. You are doing things I can’t see, things I don’t have time to process, because you have made me lose myself. You took me up and slowed, up and slowed, but now it’s too late. I can’t suppress my screams, even if the neighbors hear…

You know when I am wrung out and you gently kiss my pussy, lick my thighs. You come up and hold me tight. You know I will get to you, Love, and it will be so good on the way to getting that full load shot down my throat.

7 comments:

Clem said...

Sorry you are not getting this type of treatment all the time, but I assure you, as an avid lover of the female pussy and all it entails, your description is what my "standard" procedure is.

Too many times, however, my partner of choice cannot stand for me to savor this, and take the time necessary to complete my involvement. There is that ya know.

CyberStrike said...

That eeriely familiar to the way I do it. But most of the time she complains about me torturing her by taking so long.

Anonymous said...

nice description. But the reality is, that not every woman wants the same thing. I had a long relationship who loved being licked (and she got plenty), but hated being tongue fucked - go figure. What helped was that she didn't waste time telling me, so I was able to zero in on what she *did* like (having the outside very thoroughly licked, while being fingered or even dildoed). Ah, what fun we had.

ANother thing ladies - if you like a good long licking, make sure your diet and hygiene is good ... enough said about that one. Sadly we didn't last long, a shame, there was potential. Her sister, however ...

tammo21 said...

what do you do to make yourself taste and smell better down there? I find myself uninterested in long-term CL because I don't like the taste or smell of pussy for some reason... :(

Linda Sue said...

Tammo:
I don't know what "better" means. I love my natural smell, and the natural smell of women -- and how each one is slightly different. I guess there are washes or sprays, but what fun would that be? To me, part of the deep joy of being tongue-worshipped is having a man who loves my scent and taste. But whatever works...

bikeguy said...

Linda Sue, really informative post. This is in fact what I try to do. Not that I always did it this way. At one point a lover basically gave me a lesson: work around the edges first and then focus on the clit after things start to build up.

And right on with your comment. I don't know why women feel they need to bathe before they let someone go down on them. The scent is such a powerful turn on, and each woman's scent is a bit different.

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