Monday, August 31, 2009

Insecurities

As the poll shows, readers have their share of insecurities. I sympathize especially with the guys who have to follow a better-endowed lover. There's an itch you can't scratch. It's not the same as a small-breasted girl. I realized early on that the world is full of legs-and-ass men, who appreciate what my body has to offer. And also men who love small, pert breasts with prominent nipples, like mine -- in fact, some guys are turned off by huge tits. (For those who are total "tit men," there's my sister Amber). Still, I stand by my contention that a good lover can have an average or even small penis and lots of crappy lovers have big dicks.

As a former cheerleader who can still proudly get in her uniform -- and does, for appreciative men -- I also get the former cheerleader insecurity. As much as you want to say, "Hey, I was a national merit scholar finalist, not some cheerleader bimbo," men have a cheerleader jones. (And I was a national merit scholar finalist, too). For the guys, I added fighter pilot, but I'm sure there are others...rock musician, author, whatever.

Maybe the realest thing is "he or she won't do the things they did with the previous lover." This is a killer. I've never been that way -- although I won't let Chad try to fuck me in the ass, yet. No offense to him, I'm just too young for a colonoscopy! But I've had plenty of girlfriends who pulled this crap with new lovers, and then were shocked that he was hurt or pissed off. One, another Linda, had a drawer full of sexy lingerie -- but wouldn't wear it or buy new stuff for the very nice man she started dating. She did wear it for the bad boys.

Crying out the wrong name! This was how I discovered my ex-husband was cheating on me. My name is not Rachel. It made me crazy, but it also made me territorial horny, which is an extremely high state of arousal. Nowadays, I probably would have let him have her -- even invite her into our bed. But I was younger and more old fashioned then. I've never called another man's name...and guys really like it when you call their name while being fucked. Women, too. I love to hear my name whispered...or shouted as he comes inside me or shoots into my mouth. I had a friend, Jennifer, who made the mistake of calling out her husband's business partner while hubby was fucking her from behind. They weren't an item, but she was hot for him, facing forward away from her husband, letting her fantasy life run wild, and...woops. I'll cop to thinking about other men while getting fucked or licked, even a sexy guy I saw on the street.

Friends can be problematic. I've continued to fuck old boyfriends after we were officially seeing other people -- sometimes for years. I even fucked my ex-husband a few times after our spectacular, jealous-psycho bitch breakup. The sex was incredibly hot... Of course my new lovers didn't know.

The race and same-sex thing doesn't matter to me. Never has. Indeed, it's kind of sexy. But lots of people don't share that, even if they won't admit it. What's your insecurity or the ghost in your bedroom? The comments section awaits...

10 comments:

Ben said...

This was the first quiz of yours I did not answer. I am not a jealous person and the thought of previous(or even current) lovers never crosses my mind when in the thick of it, so to speak. There's too much happening and WAY too much to miss and enjoy with someone whom I'm about to get naked with. Each act is like picking up my favorite guitar and seeing where it goes. And did you say, merit scholar, cheerleader AND pert breast with prominent nipples? Damn!!! You don't, perchance, ever make it to the Midwest, do you?

Red said...

Everyone....I mean everyone has been down this road. All is well. What's your hurry?

Anonymous said...

I made the mistake of telling my husband that my previous lover was very well endowed. And even though he didn't say anything, I know it eats at him. He has a very nice cock, I might add.

rocketman said...

I have a slightly different take on tits - I like them clean. A clean chest. Not heavily freckled, not full of moles. Nice and clean. So if they're small, it's OK as long as they're clean.

Kspace said...

In her wilder days my wife had group sex, threesomes & moresomes. Something I've always wanted to try, at least once.

It doesn't bother me that she isn't into that anymore as much as I just sometimes feel as if I missed out on so much...

Swede said...

Seriously, not as a comment on this particular post but generally; You should write professionally.
I so Love your playful, tongue in cheek (no pun intended, though why not?) play with words and language in general.

Love,

JH

megalips63 said...

I can remember when insecurities and jealousy drove me crazy. Now, by some protective mechanism, I use them to turn me on. Now married, I communicated for a brief period with a former girlfriend primarily to get confirmation of her cheating on me when we dated. She detailed by email the event...her previous boyfriend catching her at her apt before work and fucking her wildly, leaving the bedroom door open, thinking I might show up. I knew it had happened but she had always denied it. Reading it somehow turned me on and I told her so. From there, she detailed me on several sexual exploits. "I'm sorry to say you met your match," she said of one, teasing me further.

Anonymous said...

My sexual insecuriies? Lots of them. I'm recently turned 50 and completing a Ph.D. at a university. Even though I have younger women as occasional lovers, my body (cock) doesn't respond the way it did when I was 25. I can compensate by lavishing my partners with foreplay - love long deep, slow kisses, gentle touching and slow exploration of a girl's clit, and massaging her pussy. And using toys to get a girl off is also fun. Even though I've had plenty of complements on my skills, I can never forget my age and its attendant effects.

Mike S.

6inches said...

Size of course. And for me, women misinterpret it. I'm a confident lover. I feel I can please any woman given the right circumstances. I don't feel like my size hinders my performance. But, it's more a matter of knowing, there is a bottom to this pussy, and I can't reach it. Therefore, I can't completely fill it. Every guy during sex forces every millimeter of his cock inside a woman, desperately trying not to leave anything outside. We want in deep. Even the big guys. They don't just put in say 7 of 10 inches, just because she's never had more than 5, he's going put all of it inside. On some instinctual level, there is a desire to completely fill a woman up, and the only way to do that would be to have enough, that you hit dead bottom, with even a little more to have to put in. Just my 2 cents.

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